Divorce is never easy. In fact, according to most psychological experts, divorce is one of the most overwhelming and stressful events that a person can experience – even if your relationship ends amicably. Sometimes, choosing the right path for your divorce can help you to reduce the feelings of tension and strain that you experience going into the process. For instance, Darren Shapiro offers the option for people that he works with to pick divorce mediation instead of litigation, to reduce the time they spend dealing with the courts of New York. Mediation can even help some couples to maintain their relationship to a certain extent, so it’s easier for them to remain on speaking terms for the benefit of any children.
However, just like any kind of divorce strategy, people that use divorce mediation can benefit from some planning and consideration for couples to get the most out of the experience. Although this process may be easier than litigation for some people, that doesn’t mean that meditation is all roses and rainbows. As Darren Shapiro tells his clients, people in a divorce mediation setting need to be willing negotiate, and even compromise on certain matters to help their case go smoothly. Sometimes, this means getting control over your emotions, and knowing when to take a step back and cool down.
Though Mr. Shapiro isn’t a therapist or mental health expert, he does have 20 years of experience dealing with legal battles and negotiations. This means that he can offer behind the scenes insights to individuals who need help managing their divorce process. One option that Mr. Shapiro recommends both for his clients and other legal professionals, is meditation. Even if you don’t use conventional meditation techniques to cool down and clear your mind before a mediation session, taking the time to ground yourself and get a handle on your emotions can be one of the best ways to prevent unnecessary issues from occurring as you pursue your divorce.
Meditation, whether it’s a reflective period at home or a moment of silence in a separate room before a mediation session begins, is more valuable than it may seem. No matter how you feel about your upcoming divorce, it’s often easier to think clearly when you give yourself a moment for quiet time to still your mind. Afterwards you can think about the outcomes you want to achieve and the problems you want to address before anyone else begins talking. Although many clients in the divorce space consider divorce mediation to be less stressful than litigation, there are still instances that can cause anxiety and nervousness during this process. For instance, you will still need to discuss issues with your former partner, and sometimes, this means that emotions end up running rampant.
When Mr. Darren Shapiro works as someone’s lawyer, he often finds that he can end up taking on their stress to a certain degree. As an experienced divorce attorney, he empathizes with his clients. Their goals become his goals, and he’s passionate about doing a good job. Because of this, sometimes Mr. Shapiro uses meditation techniques himself. He can also use these strategies when using certain methods to get to the three-dimensional level of a conversation in mediation, to help him maintain his objective position with both clients. After all, while understanding the emotion behind actions and statements is important, it’s also crucial for people in a mediation to act logically. Responding automatically to emotions can sometimes lead to poor decision-making.
Meditation sessions and active mindfulness can help anyone to gain more control over their emotions when engaging in the divorce process. Although traditional methods of meditation might not be suitable for everyone, Mr. Shapiro finds that it can help him and many of his clients to gain more focus when pursuing a troubling case, such as those associate with family law. After all, in family law disputes, people are typically more vulnerable to emotional reactions. No-one can push our buttons quite as effectively as family, after all.
Ultimately, the more a client in a divorce case allows themselves to be overrun by emotion, the harder it is for those individuals to achieve their goals in the divorce. When you jump to respond to emotional cues, rather than thinking logically, you risk cutting off your nose to spite your face. This happens frequently in divorce cases. Some clients even spend thousands of dollars arguing over an issue that’s only worth a couple of hundred dollars, because they can’t see pas their emotions.
Grounding yourself when in the divorce mediation process isn’t always easy – particularly when there are sensitive elements in your case that need to be addressed. However, there are a number of ways for clients to pursue a sense of calm and focus before they begin meditation. For instance, some people find exercise to be a great way to reduce stress and help them sleep better before mediation. Other people believe in using guided meditation apps on their phones. The key to success is finding a strategy of managing your emotions that’s effective for you.
To learn more about divorce meditation, litigation and family law. You can get in touch at (516) 333-6555. Clients considering meditation are encouraged to make their first free initial appointment together.